Many of us go through familiar holiday motions year after year, even when these rituals leave us feeling drained or inauthentic. The goal isn't to abandon tradition, but to create space for genuine connection—the kind that happens when we're not exhausted from fulfilling obligations that drain us.

How does someone break free of an internalized system of beliefs, feelings, reactions, and expectations that were created and deeply rooted in early parent-child interactions?

Examining the idea of loyalty and framing that understanding through the lens of, “Loyalty Contracts.”

In Patricia Gianotti’s third book, Embracing Therapeutic Complexity, she talks about the powerful grip that unfair loyalty contracts have on people throughout their life span.